What Submission Means to Me
Ty Wolfe © 2001

For a while now, I have wanted to write about what submission means to me, and I think that I am now ready to share these thoughts with anyone who may be interested. First let me say that these are my personal views on what I think submission means. The incredible thing about the lifestyle is that there is no one true right or wrong answer in the path that we choose to take. It is really what works best for you. By definition, submission is the act of submitting to the power of another or giving control of oneself to another. For others and myself as well, submission is not only giving this control, but so much more. For me it started out as a deeply rooted need, the need to submit, so much more than a mere want. I believe it is an emotional and psychological state far before it ever becomes physical. Not to sound corny, but I feel it deep in my soul, it is the one constant in my life. It is a feeling that deepens and grows stronger each time I give into this natural instinct, each time that I submit to my Master. The need to not only please Him, but to be pleasing in general, to put someone else’s needs before mine. Does this make me weak? Not at all, because its a part of who I am, and who I’ve always been. To be able to truly submit, I think that one has to be strong, emotionally and mentally, and secure with themselves.

“Submission is being strong enough within myself to be able to give what I am to another. It’s being secure enough within myself that I can freely choose to place another’s needs before my own, yet not lose my identity, instead enhance it through the power exchange..” Raven Shadowbourne “Thoughts on Submission”

“True submission comes from deep within the soul. It travels through us, pausing at the heart, where it emerges through our physical body and mind to our Dominant. It is my further belief, that you must love yourself before you can serve another..”
Lorraine Casey “My Views On Submission”

From the many, many pieces I’ve read on submission, I would have to say that these are the most accurate accounts of what I’ve felt basically all my life, before and after I could put a name to it. I’m still exploring, and trying to learn as much as I can, not only about this lifestyle, but about myself as well. I’ve read where there were many different types/levels of submission. I think whether you be a sexual, psychological, or true submissive, it all originates from the same place. I think it truly starts in our minds and our souls, this basic need to submit. Not because we think we are inferior, but because it is what we want to do, what we choose to do to be happy. No matter what way you choose to do so. All I know is that I feel this need, to submit, and sometimes I become so filled with it, that I feel as if I will burst. Its a part of me, and I hope to be able to continue to grow and learn more as I travel this sometimes bumpy but fruitful path of submission.