Honor and Trust: If It Was Not for Honor, Trust Would be Such a Distant Thing
Sir Raven © 2003

Honor and Trust are noble ideals. In the past they were traits that were so respected, so desired; traits to which people endeavored to achieve. Unfortunately, in today's society and especially in personal relationships, the concepts of Honor and Trust are nearly extinct. However, there are those who still hold on to these traditional values. The ideals of Honor and Trust still exist, they will never truly disappear. It is up to the BDSM community to lead the way back to the growth of these noble ideals. A true BDSM relationship that is based on the nurturing of Honor and Trust in both partners can set an example to the community, and slowly begin the progression of Honor and Trust throughout society.
An opinion that I have that the world should take notice of: As in no other relationship, Honor and Trust are essential parts of a thriving BDSM bond. If you cannot Honor and Trust your partner, then there is little hope for having a successful, loving and fulfilling BDSM relationship.

"If a slave lacks honor, they most likely also lack the capacity
to give trust, and the worthiness to receive trust. Is not an
honorable person a more trustworthy person?" Sir Raven

Trust goes along with Honor, and Honor with Trust. In the BDSM lifestyle, these ideals are intertwined. And these traits are built thru communication. In BDSM there needs to be an open, trustworthy and honest line of communication. If communication is lacking then things can go wrong...and when things go seriously wrong there can be dire consequences, from the end of a loving relationship to even suicides. If you truly love yourself and your slave, protect yourself and protect her. Make sure there is a continuous communication that is working towards building a strong foundation of Honor and Trust.
I cannot emphasize enough that Honor and Trust are always vital essential parts of a successful BDSM relationship. It works like a simple safeguarding system within the bond; one that is not dependant on an outside party to make the judgement calls, but instead each person is being honest and truthful, both to themselves and to the other(s) involved. If honesty and truthfulness are traits that you have difficulty with, or do not even desire to work towards achieving, then you need to rethink entering into a BDSM relationship. Communication and honesty, and truthfulness in the communication, will form the strong basis for Honor and Trust.
To build this necessary base takes time. Again, communicate !! Share ideas, ideals, thoughts and emotions. Talk freely and extensively about needs, wants, desires and fears. Do not be afraid to laugh together and share your dreams. Negotiate and be open minded. Honor and Trust are not things that will be, or can be, very easily obtained. It will take patience and lots of effort. In short, it takes work and dedication. The time it takes to build this base of Honor and Trust will vary with each individual relati onship. In a BDSM bond, the ultimate gift of honor and trust comes when you can give yourself over to someone without any fear. I do not mean that you need to just feel comfortable, but you really must be able to Honor and Trust that person basically with you life. If this feeling is missing, the relationship cannot blossom to its fullest glorious potential. Also, Honor and Trust are very powerful assets and to place them in the care of the wrong person can be dangerous mentally, physically and emotionally. If you find you cannot build this base of Honor and Trust with your BDSM partner, there is a huge problem forming. However, if you can Honor and Trust the partner in your relationship, there is an unbelievable marvelous love forming.
Let your beautiful loving relationship based on Honor and Trust, shine a beacon of light through the community. Have the strong relationship that others can see and feel, that they respect, and wish to obtain in their lives.

"Give it a try...the reward is a happiness that permeates your entire life."
"Have fun! Because this type of relationship makes life great !!"
"Enjoy your freedoms !" Sir Raven