How To Pick A Pro Dom/me
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Communicate
Be very clear and honest about your needs. You are paying for a special experience so you should know up front exactly what you are getting and what you are not getting. Keep in mind that most professional Dom/mes do not allow any sexual contact. Ask for several recent photos if physical appearance or wardrobe is important to you. Make sure there are no hidden fees. If a Dom/me is vague about a particular subject or doesn't answer questions to your satisfaction then move on.

Go with your gut instincts
If something seems a bit "off" to you, it probably is. You are meeting a stranger and allowing them to put you in a compromising situation. Use your own discretion. Be cautious.

Discuss privacy
Find out where you will be having sessions. Decide whether you want to use an independent Dom/me or one who works in a house of domination. The latter are generally more experienced and costlier but usually have their own private dungeon. Make sure your personal information is kept private.

Know each other's limits
An experienced Dom/me will spend a great deal of time learning about you and any health problems or physical limitations you may have. You should be totally clear about which acts are not acceptable to you, and you should also learn what your Dom/me's limits are. You should discuss the use of safewords and aftercare. If he or she does not seem interested in discussing limits, consider looking elsewhere.

Get references
Checking references is highly recommended. Most people don't check references because it puts them in an uncomfortable position where they have to discuss personal issues with a complete stranger, but it is a great way to learn about your potential Dom/me. Some Dom/mes might even ask for your references. At the very least you should ask for references just to see how the Dom/me will respond.