Being a slave of excellence
Master Obsidian's Namaste © 2006

Thinking lately of submission and what it means. How to be a slave of excellence. Many of us submit because of the thrill of being "forced" or being "made" to do something. We enjoy that interplay. i have heard many of my submissive friends say that they neglect to do certain tasks that they know their One would enjoy, because He does not oversee them enough. Doesn't discipline them enough, doesn't watch, push, demand enough. i too had this view at one time. There is a real jolt that goes through me when Sir tells me to do something, and i know it needs to be done perfectly, that He will check and inspect to make sure it lives up to His standard. The problem comes when i decide to allow my desire for that attention to rule me. i am now coming to a point in my journey where i have a better understanding of the heart of a slave. a slave does not desire for her One to be constantly stressed, constantly having to  "assert" His Dominance. she recognizes her desire to please, to serve, to make him happy...and seeks to fulfill this role...rather He's watching or not. His words go to her core...down to her soul. If He says His desire is for her to keep things clean to a certain standard...she does so...whether He's watching with whip in hand or not. If He goes away, rather on business or what have you...she doesn't slack off. she doesn't suddenly not care, because He's gone. He should be able to fully trust in her...in her devotion and dedication...in her obedience. Being spiritual as i am (but in no way religious) i'm reminded of Mishlei (Proverbs) 31. In there it speaks of a virtuous woman... if we read that it could easily be a blueprint of a submissive or slave of excellence. i think rather you're spiritually inclined or not...you'll have to agree that the woman described here is one that any Master would be very proud to call His own.

10 A woman of valour who can find? for her price is far above rubies.

11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, and he hath no lack of gain.

12 She doeth him good and not evil all the days of her life.

If we were to change husband to Master we would have a good idea of what the application is to us as slaves. Ultimately our goal should be to have our One's total and absolute trust, to bring Him good and not ill...rather that be mentally, emotionally, psychologically, sexually, financially, socially. All of our resources should be geared to this end.

13 She seeketh wool and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.

she is not lazy

14 She is like the merchant-ships; she bringeth her food from afar.

When He sends her to the grocery store for example, she picks out the best food, the most nourishing that she can find within the budget He's given her. she sees it as an honor to be able to do this. she is helping to decide what goes into His body, this will decide a lot about His wellness, His health, His feelings (we know there is a direct correlation between our food and out mental outlook). Because she wants what is best for Him...she doesn't get what’s easiest, but what's best.

15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth food to her household, and a portion to her maidens.

Again another instance of her lack of laziness. If you are in a household with children, or other slaves this definitely applies. a slave of excellence will arise early and handle her business. Making sure everyone has what they need. Imagine how much easier this will make your Masters morning go...if everyone is not running hither and yon, stressed and frantic because of over sleeping. Imagine His pleasure if you cook Him a nice breakfast or prepare His lunch. Many times we forget that if we are calm and peaceful, we carry that energy to Him...we should be the calming presence in His life.

16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it; with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.

This speaks of investments. The slave of excellence is always looking for ways to better her Masters financial state. This may involve business opportunities, stocks, or simply learning better ways to save. Because He trusts her, it becomes all the more imperative that she show she is trustworthy. When she uses His money for something she is wise and thoughtful...thinking of how He will ultimately gain from any purchase she makes. If  He allows her to own her own business, she in a frugal and thoughtful entrepreneur, wanting Him to reap many rewards from her business acumen.

17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and maketh strong her arms.

Okay ladies...we need to exercise!! i know, i know, we hate to. i'm a very small female. i enjoy being small, however i'm not weak in proportion to my size. We want our bodies to be pleasing to Him. We want to be strong (not bodybuilders, or model size...but healthy). We want our bodies to serve us well...so that we can serve Him well. Also consider doing some stretching, keeping your body limber is important. It also makes for interesting sexual positions...lol

18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good; her lamp goeth not out by night.

19 She layeth her hands to the distaff, and her hands hold the spindle.

she inspects the things she buys, maintains them. This can apply in numerous ways from taking care of your Sirs leather, to sewing on a button on His shirt. Learning the proper care of your One's belongings (including yourself) is a worthwhile endeavor. Some of this may involve learning new skills (how to cook, or sew for instance) that’s okay! If our goal is to serve, make an investment in yourself knowing that He will reap a lot of good from it!

20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

Ask your Sir if you can do something’s for charity. When we put goodness out into the world, we receive that energy back many, many times over. But also be mindful in your giving, your One should not have to suffer lack so that you can give to others.

21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household; for all her household are clothed with scarlet.

We all go through hard times, but if we live a life of being mindful and prepared, when they come we need not fear. How much joy would we have...if one day (heaven forbid) our One comes to us saying He got laid off...and yet because we were looking out for Him, and truly serving...we had some extra in savings, we had some business contacts that would help Him, etc; etc; Or say if an emergency happens...that things will not simply fall apart because we have cultivated our excellence.

22 She maketh for herself coverlets; her clothing is fine linen and purple.

We know that Men have a tendency to be visual. We should strive to look excellent. Our appearance should be pleasing to HIM. Only you know what your One likes to see you in. Pay attention to His favorite colors, styles. Is He tactile? Stay away from itchy, stiff fabric...if He loves your hair long, grow it out of Him...if He loves your neck, find styles that show it off... learn to love your body...it belongs to Him!

23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.

If we do all of these things, we honor our One. Other people in and outside of the lifestyle will notice and He will be very proud. A Man who is respected IN His home, easily gets respect outside of it. When people see you deferring to Him, humble, loving, serving and always, always seeking His best interests...it shows the world how truly wonderful He is!