BabySlave
Dark Connections Featured Member June 2003

Name: Yvonne/Baby

Age: 39

Orientation: Switch

Marital status: Single

Relationship status:
I am not currently involved with anyone. I have a friend of four years that I play with from time to time.

Occupation : Administrative Assistant

Explain how and why you became interested in bloodsports and tell us about your first blood play experience. I became fascinated with bloodletting when I was introduced to play piercings (needles). My first experience was publicly at my favorite S/m club, Hellfire, in NYC. After some intense impact play (flogging, whipping, caning) my Top introduced me to needles. He used my breasts. The area to be used was cleaned with alcohol and he then proceeded to insert several needles, of different gauges, into my breasts. The piercing of my flesh was very erotic, freeing, and euphoric; however, the drawing, the seeing, and the feel of the blood, was even more intense. The time came to take the needles out. One by one they were removed and placed in sharp containers. I’ll never forget the look on his face when my blindfold was removed as he stood there looking at the blood………it was as if he were in a trance. Small dots of blood were forming at the needle insertion and exit points on my breasts and then little rivulets of blood began streaming down my body. It was very warm and the look of it was awesome! He got off on it as much as me. He took out his camera (with permission of course, for they were not permitted at the club), and began snapping pictures. Then, still in his trancelike state, walked toward me and began smearing the blood around my chest. It was one of my most erotic scenes.

What is the most dangerous aspect of bloodsports and what precautions do you take to prevent infections, scarring, or other health risks?
If the Top is experienced, the equipment is sterile, gloves are used, and blood isn’t being shared, there are no dangers. It can become dangerous if these factors aren’t present. Certain considerations would need to be taken for persons that have health issues that concern blood. To prevent infection, the skin is always cleansed with alcohol before and after the breaking of the skin and Bacitracin is applied afterwards as well. Everything used for the scene is disposed of in a sharps container and thrown out. As for scarring, I don’t know of any precautions that need to be taken. We don’t take any and I have never scarred from play piercings, only from my cuttings, and they were intentional.

What advice would you give to someone searching for a partner who is into bloodplay?
Know what forms of bloodletting they are interested in exploring. There are many forms, i.e., play piercings, cuttings, scarification, sharing of blood, etc. And as with any form of play, be acquainted with your Top.

Where do you get the supplies needed for a piercing scene and how long can a person safely leave in piercings?
My Top purchases his needles from a medical supply connection. Alcohol, bacitracin, gauze, and latex gloves can be purchased at your local drug store. I am not able to tell you how long someone can safely leave in piercings. We have left mine in up to 45 minutes, approximately, without any danger.

How would you define "pushing limits"?
Subjecting a bottom to an activity where they express an interest, but designate it as a limit because they have yet to experience the play.

What are the advantages and disadvantages of being a switch? Do you believe switches are often discriminated against?
I don’t know if we have advantages or not………we just are who we are. We have come to find, through exploration, that we enjoy both topping and bottoming. I would’t say we are discriminated against, but there are many that do not or choose not to accept or tolerate people that choose a different path than them. I do not agree with many “generalizations” that are made about switches, i.e., we are confused, we are too lazy to dominate or submit so we “just play”, etc. Although acceptance of others is important to me, it is more important for me to embrace myself.

What qualities do you look for in a BDSM relationship? Do you have a preference for a Dom, sub or switch?
The qualities I desire in a relationship are trust, honesty, sincerity, friendship, love, patience, consistency, balance, confidence, experience, fun, and sadism--and of course, masochism for the bottom. I believe my preference would be a switch; however, I tend to be open about the BDSM role the person that I allow in my life plays because compatibility on a human level is much more important than how they chose to express themselves sexually. I have interacted with Doms and I enjoyed my place. I have topped subs and enjoy that place as well, but I have never interacted with them on an intimate level. I have yet to interact with a switch. I’d be very interested in developing a monogamous relationship with a switch.

Do you believe in negotiating contracts?
I do not possess a belief system as far as written, formal, contracts are concerned. I have never entered into this form of agreement; however, I am open to this form of negotiation. Thus far, the agreements that I have developed with people who enter into my life have come from plain ol’ verbal communication.

What was your worst BDSM experience of all time? your best?
My worst BDSM experience was falling in love with the man that introduced me to leather sex, who I could not have as my own. My best experience in BDSM has been meeting some truly loving and caring people.

How has being a Person of Color affected your lifestyle?
It hasn’t. The only minute role color has played in my life was when I was curious as to why I wasn’t meeting people of color in the scene in my area. Now, I have found forums like Dark Connections and that is no longer an issue.

 

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