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Mr. Worf
Dark Connections Featured Member July 2003Name: Darrell aka Mr. Worf
Age: 36
Orientation: Dom
Marital status: single and looking
Do you currently have a sub or play partner: I'm currently looking for a play partner or potential sub in N.California ( I always get email from ladies who are too far away, like Virginia or something...)
Occupation: customer support
Why do you call yourself Mr. Worf?
I stole the name from the Black Klingon character on the Star Trek the Next Generation tv show. The woman I was dating when the show started had a crush on Mr.Worf. We hadn't done any BDSM play up until that point, and for her birthday I surprised her by role playing Mr.Worf with her in our first scene together. It was a very hot low level interrogation scene. From then on I used Mr. Worf as a nickname. That was almost 10 years ago.
At what age did you realize you were a Dominant?
I had been curious about bondage, and the idea of pleasure/pain since I was a pre-teen after discovering several books on BDSM in the garbage.
Tell us about your organization, Mahogany Pleasures of Darkness, and what motivated you to create such a group.
I started Mahogany with a couple of thoughts in mind. The first was to get more people of color together, because despite the fact that the San Francisco area is very sex positive and open, there were almost zero people of color in the local BDSM scene. Why? Was the question that was on my mind. Why is it the late 1990's and I have only met a very small handful of people of color at play parties in San Francisco?The second thought I had was maybe there were people of color playing but doing it privately. The group as a whole may not feel safe coming out to play. Safety in numbers is was what came to mind.
The third was, there needs to be an infrastructure to allow people once they are out to communicate, and network. I was determined to get more people of color to participate in the scene in a year or give up the lifestyle all together.
How many years has your munch group been meeting and what tips can you give to someone attempting to organize their own local munch gathering?
We've been meeting officially a little over 3 years now.My tips to people who would like to start a munch in their own area is:1. A good location (good food can help!) with room for parking and near public transportation. A place a separate private area is even better. Also, giving directions to the restaurant is essential
2. Advertising the munch via other local groups (on line and offline) is always helpful. If there aren't any, making fliers and placing them in key places can help. People must be able to contact you for information, and directions.
3. Consistency is also helpful. Once you find a good location, having the munch on the same day of the month at the same time will help. (For instance the first Monday of the month at 7pm)
4. Once people are there, having announcements, and topics to talk about can help.
5. Patience. It won't happen overnight, unless there is already a big demand in your area for one.
What type of environment do you prefer to scene in?
I have had some really hot scenes during public play, as well as very intense scenes during private play. So you can say I like both. I like warm lighting for the scene, a lot of candlelights. Music wise it can vary greatly for me. I tend to like a lot of different types of music, each of which bring their own feelings to the scene. A slow sensual scene with quiet jazz is more arousing to me than Celtic music, but I have scened with both.
You like to laugh and joke around during scenes. Have your partners ever complained or lost their focus due to your playful behavior?
I have a tendency to joke a lot which pisses off a lot of people, especially during scenes, because it can force someone out of subspace. However, I often use my humor to taunt the sub during a scene. A sub I played with (mentioned earlier) knew how to speak French, so we would use that in a scene, humor adds a bit of spice to the play...
What is the nicest thing a sub has ever done for you?
Bathed me, fed me, and offered to have my baby... Day-um that's luv! :)
Have you ever turned away a prospective lover strictly on the grounds that they were not into the BDSM lifestyle?
In my early years I dated a lot of ladies who were completely, or at least 80% vanilla, because there just weren't any sistas I knew who were into the scene at the time. Over time it because frustrating, and I often longed for kinkier things that she wasn't into. Nowadays I'd much rather date someone within the scene than mess around with someone vanilla. Its a waste of time. I think the only exception I would make is if she has that "special something" that makes forget that she's vanilla.
Do you still find it difficult to find submissive women of color? Would you consider dating interracially?
Things are much better now. There's probably been a 900 % growth in the numbers of submissive women of color who are active in the scene, and with ads online compared to only 5 years ago. I have dated interracially before. I was lucky to meet a nice caucasian lady who helped me be a freaky/nasty dom to her spank slut. As a matter of fact, my first full time submissive was American Indian. We had a 2 year relationship that was almost entirely a growth and experimentation experience for the both of us out of convince. We were the only 2 people that we knew in the scene at the time. We had a incredible scene once where she came while being flogged. (this was 1990)
You are trapped in a hotel room with a beautiful submissive who is begging to be played with. Your toy bag and all your luggage was lost en route to your destination. How would your scene progress?
Hmm didn't I see this on HBO last night?? Losing my toys!?!?! Awww hell naw! :)
Depending on the weather, I would blindfold her, and tie her to the shower head then torture her with ice from the ice machine downstairs. Then secure her to the table then the bed with the sheets. My belt and hands can be used with much more accuracy than any leather toy.
Contact Mr. Worf at: ncalif_d@yahoo.com
