MRZYNE
Dark Connections Featured Member February 2004

Name/screen name: MRZYNE

Age: 64

Orientation: Dominant

Marital Status: Married ( I love her madly)

Do you currently have a sub or play partner: I own a submissive. We have been 24/7 for more than two years.

Occupation: Retired (Federal Civil Service)

You have been involved in bdsm for over 40 years. Tell us about your first D/s experience.
First, I am very honored to be a featured member of Dark Connections. I wish to thank the person who nominated me and the list owners for selecting me.

During my fifteenth summer, according to today’s legalese, I was sexually abused by a women in her thirties. She was the widow of my mother’s brother, my aunt. My perspective at the time was that she was my woman and that I was getting some good pussy. I certainly did not feel abused.

Aunt Mae taught me much and introduced me to S&M. We were fucking when she looked up at me and said, "hurt me”. I responded by fucking her harder. She began moaning, “Hurt me, hurt me.” In frustration I raised up and slapped her face. That moment was magic. She was experiencing the most intense orgasm she had ever had with me. I reached back and began smacking her big ass. This was the first time she called me “Daddy”.

Our S&M relationship started that night. I became very possessive towards her. She accepted the relationship and produced a razor strop for me to use when she needed it (her words). I didn’t know the term then, but Aunt Mae was my first submissive. She returned to North Carolina at the end of the summer. I still have fond memories of our time together.

What were the “Rough Trade Clubs” and how were you introduced to them? I was sixteen when I became aware that some gay men were into S&M. There is a college in the small town in Pennsylvania where I grew up. At night the gay male students cruised the hood seeking black dicks to suck. In 1956 and 57 the going rate was $20.00. I had a regular trick who liked verbal abuse and being slapped around. He told me about the clubs he went to in New York. In June 1957 at the age of 17, I enlisted in the US Army. After basic training I was assigned to New Jersey where I attended signal school for nine months. During this period I frequented the rough trade bars in NYC. One was the Shaft (on Canal Street I think). Two were in the village on Christopher Street. These were sleazy bars that featured dimly lit groping rooms (supposedly for dancing) with niches for spontaneous sex. The studs wore leather, jeans and boots and stalked the suits who came in looking for dick and torture. The on site scenes were raunchy, intense and sometime brutal. I remember smelling burning flesh and turning to see a suit on his knees giving head while the stud held a flaming Zippo to the back of his neck for motivation.

What was the lifestyle like in the 60’s? Were people of color involved at all, and how were you received as a Black man?
I was released by the army from active duty in June 1960. Within a year I was married with two stepdaughters and a son on the way. I married a submissive woman and our D/s relationship evolved to include elements of bdsm. She was not into extreme pain. During the sixties my focus was on family and career. I have no knowledge of the DS/BDSM lifestyle in the sixties.

When you were in the military and stationed in other countries you discovered heterosexual bdsm. What was the lifestyle like overseas at that time?
I was stationed in France from December 1958 to June 1960. During this assignment I spent two months near Munich, Germany. In Munich a civilian technician that I worked with took me to a private S&M club where I first saw heterosexual S&M scenes. It was a night club setting and the couples performed on stage. There were males topping females and females topping males. We ended the night in the apartment of a German couple that my friend knew. We accepted the husband’s invitation to join him in a session with sub/wife. This is the extent of my exposure to the lifestyle overseas.

After you returned home from the war, did you know about the formation of the Old Guard?
I am a peace time veteran. I was not aware of the Old Guard until I encountered folks on line who claimed they belonged to it.

During the 70’s, before the prevalence of the internet, how did you go about finding submissives?
I started the seventies married and living in a small-town in Pennsylvania. I had several affairs and I developed little tests to learn if my new partner was receptive to S&M play. My repertoire included: a playful slap on the ass (just a bit too hard); a firm tweak of a nipple; a nip that became a bite; a tug of hair; and talking the talk. I learned that many of my women were willing to experiment. My best procurer was a submissive with whom I had a D/s relationship. After she whetted their curiosity by sharing graphic details of our sessions, her friends were eager to get off with “Mr. Freak”. In the early seventies I found an Eulenspiegel publication in an adult book store. It contained bdsm stories, great bdsm art and it included a personal ads section. I bought each issue of the magazine. It was my bdsm resource. I met two local submissives through ads. With one of them I shared a long term D/s relationship.

Do you believe that your desire to engage in gunplay stems from your military background?
No. One of the challenges I face as a Dominant in a long term relationship is: How do I keep the terror real when we play? My submissive knows that I will not intentionally injure her. With gun play as with other types of edge play the real risk makes the terror real.

She wonders: Is the gun loaded… Would he use a loaded gun… What if he mistakenly thinks it empty… Will he pull the trigger… What if…OH GOD! The perfect mind fuck.

Gun play is considered to be one of the most dangerous forms of edge play. What steps do you take to ensure your submissive’s safety?
My most important safety precaution during gun play is the weapon I use. I only use my Smith and Wesson Chief’s 38 special. There is no record of this type of revolver accidentally firing when dropped. When the cylinder is opened the status of its load is obvious. When displaying the revolver loaded I stay well out of the reach of my partner. The gun is always empty during actual play. A tip for you novices: insert the barrel in a rubber to protect its finish.

You once mentioned that you find some transvestites to be attractive. Do you believe most straight men would engage in sex with a transvestite if they believed nobody would find out?
I won’t say most, but my experience leads me to believe that many men would have sex with a transvestite (TV) if they thought no one would know. I do consider receiving a blow job to be sex and I think most men would limit their encounter to that act. The often told story that he/she fooled me is bullshit. I have never been intimate with a TV and not known.

Many men find an attractive TV desirable. It may be because most TVs exaggerate their feminine personae way over the top. I understand why Eddie Murphy, who has a lovely wife and access to any woman he wants, had a TV in his car. Some of them look damn good and give great head.

You are having a drink with a woman at a bar and you need to find out whether she is submissive or not without arousing suspicion. You are allowed to ask her 3 questions and examine her body language before you make your determination. How would you proceed?

I give this response assuming that the lady and I have exchanged sufficient vanilla dialogue to feel comfortable conversing. My first ploy would be: “I work with a woman who told me that her husband makes all the important decisions in her life. When I asked why she accepted this, her answer was because ‘I trust and love him’. Could you love and trust a man that much?” If her answer was not an absolute show stopper, I would proceed: “Love makes us do strange things. What have you done that you didn’t want to do, simply to please your man?” If this response leads me to think she is possibly a submissive, my final probe would be: “I know you’ve heard the phrase ‘Love hurts.’ Cher sang a song about it. The song is about mental pain but I think there is also a physical element. Have you ever experienced pain that was also an erotic experience?” If she gives a favorable answer to this question I would feel comfortable enough to ask, “Do you know what a submissive is?”

Contact MRZYNE at:MrZyne@aol.com