Nubian Nation Council

BDSM In a Nubian World
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MrDeSade69
Director

Cntrler
Publisher NNN

Lord Pantheros1 & Lady QuyitStorm1
Coeditors

Nubian Kings Council

Mission

To provide a source of influence, knowledge, protection and strength to those that aspire to be or choose to further their growth as a Black Dominant or submissive. Thereby strengthening the quality of our Nubian BDSM community and nurturing our D/s relationships.

Goals

To serve as a resource for clarification, support, mediating, and mentoring. Thereby overseeing the evolution, and growth of trained Dominates and cultured submissives. We as a unit seek to give our community a focal point for Culture and Identity, direction and guidance, protection and problem solving as we oversee the growth of our community.

We have formed the NUBIAN KINGS Council, This is to serve as the present governing body of the BDSM NUBIAN NATION. We are in the early planning stages of reopening the Storm/Desade Academy, and reestablishing a newsletter to reflect the needs and desires of this community.

We envision forming two councils, one composed of Doms, and one of subs, to articulate the needs and desires of the community at large. It is our intent that the council of Black Dominants will serve as protectors and mentors as our community grows.

NUBIAN KINGS DISCUSSION

Join us each Thursday and Sunday Evening for stimulating, intelligent Afrocentric BDSM discussion.

9PM Est

Special Interests - Nubian Kings Room

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All list members are invited and
welcomed to participate and help guide our community to the level of excellence we all know is attainable.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY DR. KING

In recognition of this honorable occasion, I would like to share with you a part of Dr. King that America would like us to forget.

On his hopes for integration, in a speech in Louisville titled

"Which way Its Soul Shall Go":
by Dr. Martin Luther King

Now I don't believe in black separatism, I'm against it...But I do say this. It seems that our white brothers and sisters don't want to live next door to us... So...they're pinning us in central cities...We're hemmed in. We can't get out. They won't pass the fair housing bill here. And that's true in every city in this country. Now, since they're just going to keep us in here...what we're going to have to do is just control the central city. We got to be the mayor's of these big cities. And the minute we get elected mayor, we've got to begin taxing everybody who works in the city who lives in the suburbs. I know this sounds mean, but I just want to be realistic.

And in a Playboy interview (Jan. 1964):

I have been dismayed at the degree to which abysmal ignorance seems to prevail among state, city and even Federal officials on the whole question of racial justice and injustice...But this white failure to comprehend the depth and dimension of the Negro problem is far from being peculiar to government officials...It seems to be a malady even among those whites who like to regard themselves as "enlightened."...I wonder at (persons) who dare to feel that they have some paternalistic right to set the timetable for another (person's) liberation. Over the past several years, I must say, I have been gravely disappointed with such white "moderates." I am inclined to think that they are more of a stumbling block to the Negro's progress than the White Citizen's Counseler or the Ku Klux Klanner.

"We live in a confused...sick, neurotic nation."..."I'm sorry to

have to say to you that the vast majority of white Americans are racist, either consciously or unconsciously."*

Our Identity in the BDSM SOCIETY
by Cntrler

A. History and Culture
1. Connection
2. Definition

The history of Black people within this society (BDSM) is not viewed as a group. It is viewed as an individual experience based on the desire to fulfill innate yearnings with others involved in the Lifestyle, regardless of ethnicity. That is good. As more and more of us realize that others, of our ethnic makeup, exist nationwide we, as always, want to associate with US. We are defining the Black experience and identity as we go along. There is no precedent. We are the trailblazers and the teachers. Our connections to those that came before us are empty. But, we can rely on our American experience living in a society dominated by a European culture.

Culture is the sum total of the life experience of a people. Culture defines the way social transformation is organized in a society. It expresses the image that society has of itself and its relationship to the rest of the world.
--Samora Machel

As we are aware D/s is intensely personal. Rules within this Lifestyle are also personal. Between you and your partner you make your own rules. As a people in whatever endeavor or participation we find ourselves in, do we leave our mark or imprint our own personality? Yes. As a group, are we a people that forge our own identities in every field we involve ourselves in? Yes. Does our very presence in this Lifestyle cause us to seek others of our ethnicity? Yes. We as a people, without prior generations of elders and mentors are the living history of our ethnic group. Each day that we communicate, educate, learn, mentor, participate and share among ourselves produces a history and an identity, be it conscious or unconscious. The descriptions, language and preferences we choose and use will define us, therefore, unite us in a commonality and ethnicity just as we do in every day society.

Respect has always been granted to those that can articulate their identity. We must define ourselves for ourselves and in turn, the rest of this lifestyle world will indeed define us, by our definition of ourselves. We will create our lifestyle culture. People are the creators of culture, not by a committee, nor self-imposed leader(s). The attitude, behavior and mindset of the people in the lifestyle we have chosen will help to define our identity. This does not mean an overhaul of the existing knowledge we have gained from our learning experiences. No, one does not have to recreate a car just because we learn to drive one. But, we can sit in it, in a certain way, give it an individual appearance, drive it and care for it in our own way but it still remains a car. The flower that blooms from our Lifestyle experiences and the care that we give it will benefit us. It will benefit those that come after us and those that choose to involve themselves with us.

Any act or attempt to interact with each other as a group is an act of culture. The natural human experience to want to associate with others with a common heritage and social mores does not preclude that we dislike any one. It is not an indication that we want to sever any association with others with whom we have grown close. It is a personal choice. Likewise, those that wish to associate with us need to understand the collective will and personality of mature people of another ethnicity. That comprehension can be something to explain and share with the curious, ignorant and presumptuous individuals. Black people have always wanted time to themselves for themselves and not as a derogatory statement to others. Our collective will to be with each other should be cherished and nurtured. Our willingness to interact with others is not to be viewed as a revocation of our common behavior and thinking. It will always be another addition to our historical and social experience and part of a constantly changing script in our life experience.
Hotep.

"Culture is a product of history just as a flower is the product of a plant."
--Amilcar Cabral

CHAMBER DESADE

Erotic Fear

Erotic Fear

Erotic according to the American Heritage dictionary is defined as dominated by sexual desire. Fear is defined as a feeling of agitation and anxiety caused by the presence of danger. Now if we put these two terms together we can define Erotic Fear as the feeling of anxiety dominated by sexual desire.

How do we apply this term in real life? Erotic Fear can be used to enhance a scene, by opening up the power of fear mixed with the passion and rawness of sex. Erotic Fear, just like any other art form of D/s has a wide range of intensity. It can be as innocent as having sex in an elevator where the fear is of getting caught or as extreme as using an instrument of death in your sex play, such as a gun or a knife. Another example of extreme Erotic Fear would be having someone strangle you while you are having sex. Breath play is an intense mixture of terror and desire.

I have been asked why I enjoy Erotic Fear. Well, the desire to see the conflict between the different parts of my subs psyche is very arousing to me. As a dominating man I seek to dominate my sub in her mind, body and heart. I like to explore the deepest part of her soul and fuse those fears and desire together. I have discovered that the conflict of such basic raw emotions is very intriguing to me. I find that is it very important to me to understand and probe this aspect of D/s. While this contest of emotions is being played out in my sub's mind. I must ask myself which part of her psyche will win. Will my sub give into her fear or will she submit to her sexual desire? With the pursuit of answering this question lies the reason why I enjoy Erotic Fear.

Erotic Fear can be a powerful device in one's arsenal of Dominance. You can expand the limits of the Dominates and subs levels of passion. Just like with any other tool one must be experienced in it's use. With Erotic Fear this is very important for there are many pitfalls when someone is performing this art without the benefit of some form of training or knowledge. Such pitfalls are psychological damage to the sub's mind, a sense of emptiness experienced by the sub and a severe case of God like complex experienced by the Dom. This is an art form of fusing two opposite and basically primal emotions together and gaining pleasure from the joining of the two.

Enjoy the exploration of an uncharted universe known as...Erotic Fear

Mr. DeSade69
Director
Nubian Kings Council

I walk in the shadows of my enemies mind, controlling and conquering all that I see.

EYE OF...

The Storm

How can I say "proud"?
I will start by saying what a tremendous honor it has been to work with three such "FANTABULOUS" Black Dominants. The fact that they have stepped out from the masses with a sincere mission to better our community speaks volumes to their integrity. As a black submissive, I relish the since of protection and guidance they instill. May they continue to represent and nurture the Nubian BDSM community. Without them, the discussions, and the this very newsletter could never have been possible.
THANK YOU SIR'S!!!

NNN
Chuckles

Adam and Eve
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Sometimes women are overly suspicious of their husbands.... When Adam stayed out very late for a few nights, Eve became upset. "You're running around with other women," she told her mate. "Eve, honey, you're being unreasonable," Adam responded. "You know you're the only woman on earth."

The quarrel continued until Adam fell asleep, only to be awakened by a strange pain in the chest. It was his darling Eve poking him rather vigorously about the torso. "What do you think you're doing?" Adam demanded.
"Counting your ribs," said Eve.

If Only...
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Boudreaux, Fontenot, and Thibodeaux had all been life-long buddies. One day, while fishing under the I-10 bridge in the Atchafalya Basin,
Boudreaux made his confession. "We all been friends for thirty years and been thru a lot. I never told ya'll before because I didn't want to ruin our friendship but... I'm gay."

Fontenot looked over at Thibodeaux and said, "We kind of figured that out a while back, but wasn't gonna mention nuttin' cause we didn't wanna embarrass you." Boudreaux thanked 'em for understanding and continued: "The reason I bring it up now is cause I got the AIDS and I got six months to live. Ya'll the only family I got left and I want ya'll to promise me that you won't let them bury me, I got a fear of caskets and I want to be cremated. Then I want ya'll to personally tro' my ashes from dat bridge up dere over dis water, where we spent so much good times together."

Fontenot and Thibodeaux wiped back a few tears, then agreed to do what der friend had asked. Sure enough, six months later Boudreaux had died, and they were standing on the bridge with his ashes. Fontenot was about to throw them out, when Thibodeaux stopped him. "Aren't you going to say anything?", he asked. "I don't know what to say. I never was much about going to church," Fontenot admitted. Thibodeaux scratched his head. "Just say something ... anything. Make it rhyme."

Fontenot thought about it a while and started throwing the ashes out over the water. "Ashes to ashes, dust to dust, if you'd a only liked pussy, you'd still be here wid' us."

NNN
Poetry

In celebration of our beautiful Nubian submissives....
MAKE MINE BLACK!

Make mine Black cause she has all I need,
No other woman can compare, this is true in deed,
One look at a Black woman can tell a million stories,
Some of past failures, some of past glories,
She is physically gifted with nice hips and a firm behind,
Sisters were created with magnificence, that's why they must shine,
Black women come in different shades, some light and some dark,
But no matter the complexion, for they all win hearts,
Why would a Black man want to be down with any other,
I can think of one reason.....he is not a true brother,
When I see a Black woman I see the meaning of true beauty,
To honor and protect these prized jewels is the Black man's duty,
Guys of all races want what the Black woman has,
But it takes a Black man to fill up her wine glass,
There are beautiful women of all races, this is a true fact,
But none are equal to the Sisters, so make mine Black!
Author Unknown

Emotional Safety

No, pain is not all physical. Sometimes, it's in your head and your heart as well, and sometimes, those scars are the hardest to heal.

Here are some tips to lessen your chances of getting them in the first place.

1. Be honest. With yourself. With prospective partners. Never be ashamed to admit you don't know something, or to ask questions. If you're looking for 24/7, don't tell someone you only want to play. If you're looking for love and romance, be upfront about it. If you are dishonest about what you want, it's not only you who could get hurt in the long run.

2. Never reveal too much about your personal life to anyone on-line. There are too many people who'll use your heartaches and problems for hot IM gossip.

3. If something doesn't feel right, it probably isn't. Your instincts, once again, are your greatest gift and resource. Use them, and listen to them.

4. Heed warnings. If you're told by more than one person that a prospective partner could be trouble, LISTEN. Take into account that it's someone else's opinion of someone you're getting to know, but always listen, and openly ask your partner about what you hear. Ultimately, it's up to you to decide if you believe everything you hear, but always hear what someone is trying to tell you, and always, check it out.

5. If a prospective partner asks you not to ask anyone else online about them, ask yourself why. Then ask them why. And if you can't come up with any satisfactory answers, either walk away, or proceed with EXTREME caution.

6. If a prospective partner is hesitant with personal information after you've already given yours, then take it as a warning. FIND OUT WHY.

7. Don't get dragged into online gossip. It may be fun for a while, but eventually it will only come back to haunt you. There are people online who have nothing better to do. Don't become one of them.

8. Think for yourself. Trust yourself. Be honest with yourself. And above all, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.

NNN INTERVIEW

Introducing
Lord Pantheros1

1. What brought you to the Black Dom or EbonyDomSub chat rooms?

In truth, I was hitting on QuyitStorm. In the process she introduced me to The D/s concept. I immediately recognized it and was drawn to the lifestyle. I had, as could be expected, many misconceptions about Dominance and submission, and was thrilled to learn that my attitudes were always consistent with those of a Dominant.

2. What makes these rooms unique?

I like the decorum, the respectful way the members communicate with each other.

3. What got you interested in D/s or BDSM?

As I intimated, I've always been a Dominant, just never had a name for it, or the validation of knowing there is an entire community that shares my viewpoints. Now I have the opportunity To practice it properly.

4. What is your philosophy on D/s?

You got a week? I pride myself on the logical approach to life and it's many surprises. I've come to realize that if you have things in their proper alignment, The mountains quickly become mole hills. My singular approach to D/s is highly spiritual and idealistic. There are over a dozen references to male dominance in the Bible. I believe in the natural power of the Man, the natural dominance over the woman. And the structure of the traditional African family was consistent with what I'd read in the Bible. I am primarily a Pleasure Dom. I abhor humiliation and subjugation as standard. My approach is mental, and pain and punishment are tools to that end only if it is requested by the sub. I need a spirited freethinking sub who submits only to me, weakness repulses me. I am a natural warrior and have a need to conquer.

5. What is it about the D/s or BDSM lifestyle that draws you to it the most?

I like the structure and order. I had a long term relationship that lacked order, I know the perils of attempting to raise a family in a chaotic environment. I've also had the experience of the interview process, and was blown away by its' depth and thoroughness. I love order. It makes the difficult decisions so much easier.

6. In your opinion is AOL, IRC or any other online service a good medium to begin a relationship D/s or otherwise?

Unlike most, I like the electronic medium. Too often we are distracted by the physical senses. Online it is necessary to talk, to LISTEN, to connect mentally, spiritually and intellectually. You must learn to deal with the person as a person, rather than a life-support system for their genitalia. People who screw up online are the same ones that screw up in real time.

7. What do you find most enjoyable about Dominance or Submission? (depending on your position)

In this area, I'm quite average, I love the Erotic Power Exchange. I love taking responsibility for a subs erotic fulfillment and shaping and satisfying her fantasies, guiding her through life choices, giving her a reason to stand tall. Accepting another persons power and becoming responsible for them is an awesome rush. Having a whole powerful being submit to you is just the ultimate. Which is why I don't understand the popularity of subs that are willing to be anybody's doormat.

8. What is your definition of Dominance or submission?

Dominance is the seizing of the power presented, Taking that power and using it as proficiently as you can, and the relish of the responsibility that comes with it.

9. What is your area of specialty?

If I have to name one thing that I like above all else, it would be the seduction of the mind. But having already developed certain manual skills, the art of spanking holds a certain appeal for me. And of course there is the age-old question: To bind or knot?

10. Tell us about yourself:

I'm a spiritual idealist, I love black women, my peoples well-being is of primary concern. I don't entertain the concept of male subs, or dommes. Those ideas go against the natural order of things. As you can see, I'm opinionated. It ain't easy being right all the time...lol. I also will not consider a white sub, as I said, I like order. Whenever I say this I get attacked from both sides, so come with it I'm used to it. But make note, I never said I hated white people, or even dislike them, I just don't make them a priority. I'm reminded of a quote: "I don't blame all white people for slavery, but they bear a strong resemblance to the people I do hold responsible."

My vision for the Black BDSM community is that it become a microcosm of what the universal black community should be. I believe in the universality of man, but I believe in balance. There can never be equality between the haves and the have- nots.

PANTHER'S LAIR vol. 1

AN OPEN LETTER

I'm writing this letter in response to recurring incidences of white subs entering rooms designated "Black" and announcing their ethnicity. I may be a little thick, but I'm not getting it. If you truly see the magnificence of Black kings and queens, how can you think you might increase your value as a sub by proclaiming your "whiteness?"

This reeks of 'racism,' It is saying to me that you feel you are a valued commodity because of your color. I have a problem with your line of thinking and I also have a problem with the Black Dom/sub that assists you in perpetuating that type of attitude. Take a moment to think, any Black Dom/sub that values you on the basis of your skin color is a 'lost' individual. It is a person troubled by self hate. Such an individual is of no value to his own people, and definitely not representative of the strong black man, or passionate black woman you are obviously seeking.

A dear friend of mine says that when blacks seek out whites for potential mating partners, it is a (process) of "Thinning the herd." Eliminating the recessive self-pride gene from our gene pool, making the nation stronger as a whole. It is a difficult theory to refute, but I like to think that with the proper education these prodigals may be brought home, and made to realize that love of self is a prerequisite to loving anyone else.

To loosely quote an old poem, "When a Brothers play ain't tight enough to play with some black thighs, Bothers play with white thighs to see if they have any play left..." "No, he didn't say that" Yes I did, and meant it! Historically, whites have dipped into the "chocolate." These very same females seek out "black delights" toss themselves at the feet of anyone who even resembles a Black Dominant. They are easy prey for that lazy being who hasn't the gumption to endeavor to conquer the soul of a strong black woman. The men, sometimes secretly, sometimes blatantly lust for our lovely queens.**

I say all this to enlighten those misguided folks that are wrapped up in sexual ethnicity. The "prize" you seek is not actually available. Any true Nubian King will honor his Nubian Queen above all else. The very best another can be is a "beta." So when you enter a room that has as its purpose, the elevation of the black consciousness, leave your "racist" attitudes at the door. If you feel you can respect the purpose and harmony of our room, you are welcome to join us.

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