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DECEMBER 1998 ISSUE
BDSM
IN A NUBIAN WORLD DEC. 4 - Conquest Play PartySoCal-CONQUEST BDSM-D/sSociety Info DEC,
11 - Heartbreak Hotel..Special
Rates for D/s? DEC.
25 CHRISTMAS DAY
Special
Interests - BLACK DOMS SUPPORT LINKS submissives
United for Consensual Kink {sUCK} Join
us as we explore the rising interest in D/s within the Thought
of the Month: (This is taken from subnation website: URL http://www.mouse-works.com/subnatn/journey2.html#dom3) If we think of our power exchange as a topology, then there are several 'places' I reach with her. The first is when we are on the same level, with nothing more than that undercurrent, that hum, of acknowledgment between the two of us that reminds us of who she is to me, and what I am to her. This low-level tension is something I savor. It means we walk an edge together. It means that dropping a careful phrase, or using a usually reserved gesture, or giving her a certain look, *pushes*... so subtle, I savor it, the small shock in her eyes, the faint flush, the tightness in her throat that makes her swallow. That first 'place' we are together is when I take her wrist instead of her hand when I walk with her to buy movie tickets, when I hold eye contact a heartbeat too long, and when I am slightly more reserved with my laughter and smiles. As the Dom I feel a quiet, peaceful sense of being in control--exactingly in control. As if I'm holding her casually, strongly, firmly... at the edge of a precipice. The second place is still not quite "in scene," but it is when I want more than a low-level tension between us. Or when she does. Trigger words? She might call me "Sir." Then I know she wants to go there. We all talk about the submissive being 'conditioned' or 'trained'-- I may not be the first to tell you that a dominant can be put 'in the mood' through similar associations. She can take us there as easily as I can take us there. When I hear her voice drop, or watch her as she slowly begins to make less eye contact, or when she slips in a "sir"-- no matter how casually. If I wasn't hard before, I would be now. This second place is explicit. It's not a place we can be in public. Not easily. I am using a different voice, a lower one. My language has changed. I begin to feel strong, large, dark. Apparently my eyes dilate, my brow relaxes, I seem to slow down. As if I'm becoming more careful in some way. And I think I am. My thoughts feel tightly focused, my emotions and physical reactions intensify. This place is higher, for me. Lower, for her. I'm on a level above her, now. My breathing feels slow. My touches become more meaningful, and I begin to use more meaningful touches. Cheek, jawbone, throat, breast. That feeling of control and power increases... What does that feel like, you may wonder? All of this... the sense of quiet, of slow, of intense. Here is when I can whisper, "I own you" -- and mean it, and *feel* it. I begin to think in terms of intense *truths* about my relationship to her. Things *are*. I *make* them. She is *mine*. And the
third level. Here I am pushing my own limits, and hers. I am on
a tower, she is deep in a hole. I can cover her only light by
moving my hand. This is delicate. I might even feel afraid, here.
I can feel my responsibility for her well-being as if it were
some physical thing surrounding me. If we are playing at the edge
of one of her limits, I do come down a little. I have to. I begin
to feel less intense and slow, and more awake. Alert. Watchful.
If the second place is as much like a trance as I describe, than
I have to say that this third place is where I snap out of it.
I'm still filled with an intense sensation of control, but it's
subtly different. If we're this far then I pull myself out of
my own feelings enough that I can watch her, do some spot-checking,
guide her. I often wonder if she can sense that moment where I
make the ever-so-subtle switch from swimming in my own oceans
of power to taking the helm of the scene and pushing her the way
she craves to be pushed. Here is where her deep submission is
the star. My climax, if you will, is in the second place. *Bringing
her here* was my raison d'être. Now she is here, and it
is her turn.
Hello to all the Doms/Dommes and Subs that read this news letter. I am new to the room and I would like to say thank you for the warm greeting that you all of shown me. Well, I have a been a Dom for about 7 years. I became interested in the world of B/D and S/M and D/s when I saw my first bondage picture. I became more interested in these art forms B/D,S/M and D/s when I read the books The Story Of O and The Works of the Marquis De Sade. These books opened a whole new side of my personality. After reading those book I become aware of my for a lack of a better word lust for physical and mental domination of women. I began to read more and study the many art forms of torture, bondage and submission. I try to read as much as I can on the these art forms. I find that an educated Master is one that can provide different and strong sensations in his Sub. I have worked with many of the popular devices that are out today. Some of my favorites are whips, metal wristcuffs, rubber/leather and PVC clothing, ball gags and feathers. I was asked what are my views on D/s. Well, I am a firm believer in safe play. Having a code word for the Sub to say when things get out of control is a must. Also I think the Dub should have a code word as well. To prevent himself from losing control. To me I am of the thought that the Sub has all the power and the Dom is the intrustment of that power. Communication is one of the most important aspect of a good D/s relationship. If a sub feels she cannot talk to her master then she will not have any fun and the master will not know what his sub needs are when they change. Loyalty, respect and trust are also important things to have in a good D/s relationship. People must remember that this is an art form. You must read and study, and practice to become a better Master or Mistress. Also remember this is not about hitting people to get rid of some anger or frustration. It is about showing your Sub or slave the pleasure that they can get from their pain. Currently I am without a Sub but I am looking so if you like what you have read please with respect drop me some e-mail or an IM and we can talk. Until
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